All, Housekeeping, motherhood

The Most Valuable Tool in My Laundry Arsenal: The Seasonal Wardrobe Change

Okay, so, you know I’m a SAHM. With that glorious title does come some responsibilities. One of the most tedious is the laundry. I mean, there always some dirty clothes to be washed, amiright?! We are now a family of 5, and the laundry is more plentiful than ever. Given the time of year and the addition of dirty clothing, I knew there was only one thing I could do to prevent our home from turning into the Rocky Mountains of dirty (or clean and unfolded, which eventually become dirty) clothes.

My first time trying the seasonal wardrobe change was last year. It was also kind of on accident. I got so overwhelmed with the amount of laundry laying around in my house I just began to dump it into large bags to toss out of my life. I quickly realized that with fewer clothes, laundry didn’t seem so overwhelming. This year i am being more deliberate with my intentions. I am changing the clothes of all 5v of our family memebrs with specific attention to make sure we have high quality, weather appropriate pieces in our wardrobe for the colder seasons.

I love the seasonal wardrobe change because its kind of like dropping dead weight right off your shoulders. People don’t realize just how many clothes can be amassed in one season of the year.

Laundry, like everything else, is abundant in La Casa Carmona

I haven’t quite perfect the process of changing out all the clothes. Last year I just angrily dumped clothes into a trash bag because I was fucking frustrated. This year, using the trash bag method *modified*, I am tossing clothes into the bag as they come around on the laundry schedule. This means that as I fold and put away clean laundry, i am putting the clothes that we will not use during the cold season into the bag for storage once the rotation is complete. I am not sure how well it will work, but I have decided that’s how I am going to do it, and that’s what I am going to stick with.

I am looking forward to the process because I am feeling more confident about the change this year that last.

How it’s going so far

I will have to update you on my progress as the journey continues. It’s going to take me a while considering I just had a baby a week ago.

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All, motherhood, Pregnancy

Day 1 With 3 Kids…

Today was the first day of an exciting new chapter of my life. I woke up today with three children in my life. With no idea what to expect, and a lot of physical challenge with recovery from labor & delivery, I was excited to move into my first day as a mom of 3.

On December 3rd, I delivered my third child via cesarean at 7:52pm. My body was convulsing and I was having doubts (although it was a little late at the time) about having another baby. What kind of effort will this really take?

My 6 year old talked incessantly. My two year old cried just as much. The baby was constantly calling, and I quickly realized that this will take a lot of patience and love.

My daughters on their first day as a trio.

The day was challenging, but teamwork prevailed. My husband and mother in law took on the majority of the weight as I stayed with the baby for most of the day. Creating time for the older two to visit with their younger sister was important and it proved to be a great strategy for letting the girls get to know each other. It was so much fun seeing them smile and stare into those little eyes.

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All, Friendships, Perspectives

Why I’ve Decided to Stop Venting to Friends

Before I get started, let me just say I love my friends. I have a very small circle, and each and every one of them are phenomenal women who truly enhance my life experience… but I decided that I’ve gotta stop talking to them when I’m feeling upset and need to vent.

No, its not them. Its me.

Lets start by getting a standing definition of venting, because its come to my attention that some people don’t use this term. Venting is when you have heavy negative emotions (like anger, irritation, hopelessness, disgust, etc.), and you just want to talk to someone about ALL OF IT. You want to start at the very beginning of it and go over every detail of whats been upsetting you. Usually, if your friend is wanting to be a “good” friend, they’ll just sit there on the couch or on the other end of the phone and listen to you (sometimes for hours) without interrupting. The point of venting is to “get it all off your chest” so that you can feel better. Therein lies the problem:

I almost NEVER feel better after venting.

Now there has been the rare occasion- THE VERY RARE OCCASION- when I have vented to a friend who is in a particularly centered state and can guide my focus from feeling bad to feeling better. That’s the IDEAL outcome from a venting sesh, but, unfortunately, that’s also rarely the outcome. This sort of theraputic responsibility that we place upon our friends when we want to vent to them is a LOT to ask of someone. First, they would need to be what I call aligned with their inner self before they could be any use to you for helping with emotional navigation. Usually this isnt the case, so what happens is you dump all of your issues and gripe onto your friend who is dealing with her own issues. This leads to the perpetuation of complaining, pointing out more problems, and never really coming to solutions that feel good.

No, I’m not calling out every person in the world who vents, because we all do it at one point or another. I’ve just decided that I wont be doing it anymore.

I’ve decided that I’m not going to vent anymore because I want to find more constructive and powerful ways of dealing with negative emotions.

Its not easy to not vent to friends, though, and its also hard to stay centered and aware when a friend is venting to me. The emotion of it all! What I do know is I’m committing myself to handling emotions better and encouraging those around me to do the same!

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